Last weekend I resorted to my good old passtime: dreaming (Read Contemplating) about the future. It has been quite a while that I dreamt of my future as the "Poor Piscean" in myself was getting used to the ground realities of life.
Having a child in one's life is really an amazing experience. You start thinking about your early years and inadvertently try to draw a parallel/ contrasts between your early years and those of your child's. It is a good experience juxtaposing your past with your child's present and the future. Every parent wants to do the "best" for their child. The only problem is that very few of them are sure what is "best".
Like any other ordinary parent, I am also struggling to define the "best" these days. There are actually so many variables that shape a child's personality in the future years. I have now realized that rather than analyzing those variables (which are not in your control anyways), it is better to just focus on imbibing the "right set" of values in your child. And as you would have guessed it by now, everyone has their own definition of the "right set".
The challenge of parenting is that you experiment as your child is growing up. But by the time, the "result" of those experiments appear, it is too late and too distant to conclude the potential factors behind those results.
So the conclusion - Do what you feel is the best for your child. There is nothing absolute right or wrong anyways in this world.
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I am a parent myself just like you...and i too worry over my child's personality, values, strength(internal), his future, his reflections about the world, his ideas about success, about how to raise his curiosty, about what to expose him to and how etc.....
I do feel that a childs most influential teacher is the parent and our actions/inactions are teaching our children about life. This is a one-way street and since our child has been born in this world we have started his education.
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